Love Finds You… In Service 

Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready. (Song of Solomon 8:3‭-‬4 MSG) 

Dear Simbi,

This letter is like nothing you have ever received. I know your make-up, your essence and femininity. As every girl grows up, her heart quietly longs for more. She wonders, “Will I ever attract a Prince Charming whom I will live with happily ever after?”

I understand. You were wired this way by a most loving and infinitely wise Creator. At this point, you feel a certain pressure build up. Pressure to look more beautiful. Pressure to fit into society’s mould of the she-man. Pressure to hang around the male folks and speak in suggestive manners without actually saying any words. And this pressure comes from the 4 cardinal points: Pressure from family members as soon as you approach a certain age. Pressure from friends and age groups as you get invited to weddings every other weekend and you have to buy unending asoebi. Pressure from within as you quietly fear that you may never be good enough. Pressure from the male folks as they keep sending you conflicting signals. The struggle is quiet but real. It’s same for every Simbi you see, if truth be told.

But, let me tell you; since you became a born again girlie and handed over the running of your life to Jesus, He put you on a path to a glorious, predestined future.

Be at rest, hun. God’s got this. Stay BUSY. Do things for God in line with the Holy Spirit’s leading. Develop your community. Dream big and live progressive. Be purpose minded and passion driven. Avoid the temptation of matching yourself with any seemingly prospective dude. Avoid awakening your sleeping love beauty too, by reading or watching or listening to overly amorous materials that may only increase the pressure you feel. Stay in service, love finds you in service. Become more spiritual, beautiful in your way and excellent. Remember, you will attract who you are like…

With love from,


Dear Ali,

Fewer words will suffice because of your intrinsic make-up; your rather focused and analog mind. Rest buddy, rest.

Every unmarried guy has a problem of finding a wife who will be a good thing and favour from God. The struggle is real. One girl is beautiful but arrogant. Another is educated but not domestic. You can’t seem to get them all together in one. In church, in class, in your office and even on the street, your heart is darting from pillar to post. You wonder, “Is it Simbi or Celine, Bunmi or Ada?” Then you are tempted to send all of them signals at the same time. You know, stir the waters. Bro, truth be told, that’s a dangerous move. Trust me, you want to let sleeping lions lie.

One word, Rest. The moment you became a born again lad, Jesus took charge of your present and your future. Like He took Eve to Adam while Adam slept, God will bring your princess while you rest. Don’t forget that this is rest on your feet man, while in service. Get busy. Discover divine purpose and run with it. Be eternity conscious. Learn to be a man and to be single. Learn to read, lead and cook! Have integrity. Remember that you will attract who you are like…

From a buddy_of_life, 


3 thoughts on “Love Finds You… In Service 

  1. Nice one, Amoscp. The love of Christ is meant to be shared, given, received and grown in. But this should not be confused with the context of love in the above post. The love here is more like the love between spouses and this kind is not to be shared with brethren. Because of the criticality of the choice of a partner in this case, pressure is often felt but at the same time, sufficient grace from God is available to those who acknowledge that they need it.
    One of the major points in this post is to encourage singles to be rested in their minds and stay in active service for God as they wait on God to lead them to love with their better half.


  2. Dear Ali et Simbi,

    God is Love. Love is of God and is sacrificial. You can’t run away from it. It is around, everywhere, even in a smile. Live for God, live in His Love. Love for God and do to others what you wish to be done to you. The pressure will always be, in service or not. It may even come from those that you don’t expect from. Share it with your 1st Love. Share it with the one that died for you to live. Every other things are mere opinion. Be happy.



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s