Weekly Nuggets #4 – The Process

⏳ T H E P R O C E S S ⌛️

When we were expecting our baby, I had a rocky, sickly first trimester. I could hardly keep anything down, be it food or vitamins. It wasn’t the greatest feeling in the world. Most mornings in that period were written off because I was either nauseous or holding still so as not to move anything that could stir up dizziness, lol.

I remember sharing my experience with a friend of mine and she related her own pregnancy experiences and concluded by telling me,

“The moment you hold your child in your arms, you will feel such overwhelming joy that would make this entire journey worth it.”

For some reason, I didn’t get it. No, I didn’t appreciate the sentiment she shared.

“You mean I have to wait a whole extra 6 months before I feel better?” 😩

Very funny, but not funny. 😂

I guess I wanted to feel “normal” again the very next day. 6 months felt like a ridiculously long time.

But would I have been okay with the results of that stage of the process? Would anyone want to deliver a 3-month-old fetus, no matter how excited they are to meet their little one?

I guess not.

Although Baby’s organs and the extremities of their limbs are formed by Week 12, there is still so much more development they must undergo in the remaining 28+ weeks inside the womb to ensure that they are born healthy.

The process.

The process must be seen through.

Baby had to develop fingernails, toenails, eyelids, and hair.

Baby’s nervous system had to start functioning.

Baby had to learn to move (you know, those famous kicks), and to respond to stimuli.

Baby had to gain some body fat!

The whole 9 yards, literally!

I know sometimes, the wait is long. You’ve probably been waiting on that work promotion for quite a while, and you are tempted to throw in the towel.

I know you have been waiting for that loved one to come around.

It’s so painful that you sometimes wonder if the wait is even worth it.

But I wonder, would you rather have the results of a process that is not fully formed?

In my case above, I learned to wait for my time, lol. And it got better, I promise.

For instance, during the ultrasound around Week 20 when I saw my child’s tiny feet and those cheekbones, I lost it! ❤️ I instantly fell in love with my not-yet-born baby. Everything suddenly felt real! It made the wait bearable so that when the 3rd trimester came with its characteristic swollen feet and lower back and waist pains, I knew it was not for nothing. I was giddy with excitement. Delivery was imminent. We were going to meet our child soonest.

King David dropped a-million-dollar-worth counsel in Psalms 27:14 that I would like to share. I especially love how the Living Bible translation renders it.

“Don’t be impatient. Wait for the Lord, and he will come and save you! Be brave, stouthearted, and courageous. Yes, wait and he will help you.”

This is an advice that we all can appreciate and grasp for free.

That if we stay patient, if we trust the process, keeping our eyes on the result and doing the work required in the process, we can rest assured that although we have not figured it all out just yet, the wait will be completely worth it, and our harvest will be bountiful! ❤️

I wanted to share these two quotes that seem to have differing perspectives but which do convey a unique message.

While the former nugget advocates for keeping in mind one’s destination as a motivation to stay the course, Patrick King in “The Science of Overcoming Procrastination” points out that pressure comes from focusing only on the big goal, which in turn births procrastination. He suggests to only concern one’s self with the work involved in accomplishing the goal. Basically, enjoy the journey. 😉✌🏽

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